There is so much peace in being alone. I have found this to be true throughout my life because I’m blessed with being an introvert.
However, this doesn’t mean all hope is lost for extroverts when it comes to finding peace in singlehood. I believe everyone should be happy with themselves before finding happiness with others.
Even introverts can find this difficult at times. Self esteem definitely comes to play when discussing relationships with others.
We are all guilty of losing ourselves to relationships at least once in our lives. There is no shame in admitting that we all want love at some point.
However, we always must first find love within ourselves. We have to be at least comfortable and happy being alone before we can expect happiness with someone else.
This requires something I refer to as silence therapy. Forcing myself to hear my own thoughts alone in a quiet room is difficult.
Thoughts go everywhere they possibly can and not always to positive places. Journaling is key for a moment like this.
Writing every thought that comes to mind isn’t as helpful as only writing the ones that stand out. Then going back later that evening and reading them.
We can surprise ourselves sometimes. When we see our thoughts written on paper sometimes they all seem ridiculous instead of threatening.
The only way to adapt to being happily alone is to get through what makes it so difficult. In time we all learn to appreciate and love small parts about ourselves.
We look forward to the silence after a while. It takes time to be alone happily.
The peace is so valuable that it’s difficult for people who are single for long periods of time to come out of it.